While going through my blog list came across post by noted writer Shobhaa De about the death of female child..by the hands of their own mother and grand mother..
Reasons:
1. Husband did not want them to come back home with a girl child
2. Grandmother stated that she was sure the babies would suffer from deformities after coming out of the incubator, so, in any case their lives were worthless.
Ghastly and heinous crimes in the eyes of many of murdering some one. But actually who is responsible the mother who committed or the husband or grandmother who made her commit this crime.
Perhaps its none of them but us. A helpless society who raises "hue and Cry" about the situataion when its over. Had there been an awareness and help for such mothers..am sure none of the mothers would have actually done it..
Till that time we need to accept this harsh reality that its lack of efforts from our end..that has resulted in such a heinous crime..
Here is my small beginning from me to raise an awareness about such crimes..Step in and lets make a collective effort to stop this..
Read the full article at: Can it get worse?
Women!!Women!!Women!!
can't live with them, can't live without them...
but this is one species that god created and he's still laughing... at himself and his creativity...
well hold it... all your angst against me and before you count me one among those innumerable MCP's... that you already know...
i do... and i really do... respect them for what they are and all that a woman symbolises... all the strength that she represents both for herself and her family... she is the pillar which holds a house together...
god was very thoughtful when he made a woman... he gave them all that he knew that a man was'nt worth giving... for he had made the man weak hearted... for he had made man weak brained... all that he gave man was physical strength...
god made woman a mother... the most precious of his blessings...
he gave HER the responsibility to carry a child in her womb... for he knew that only she could handle the preciousness of the most virtous of his blessings... for he knew only she was sensible enough to know and understand the value of his blessing...
((just another of the reasons probably that atheists like me talk of god once in a while... cos no supernatural power could have made something so perfect as a women...))
if all this, then why? why? why?
· WHY ALL THE TALK ABOUT WOMENS LIBERATION??
· WHY ALL THE CALL AND DEMAND FOR RESERVATIONS AND CONCESSIONS FOR WOMEN??
· WHY IS IT THAT COURTESY, MANNERS AND SPECIAL TREATMENT ARE EXPECTEED WHEN DEALING WITH THEM??
i might have triggered those anti ME nerves in you again, but... seriously, if all that they want is to stand equal to us men... then why not fight it along with us... shoulder to shoulder?
even we are struggling today... the competition is just as equal everywhere... it is not ruled by the discrimination of sexes...
(( sonia gandhi... a girl from some far flung italian town who probably in her wildest dreams wouldn't have thought of commanding a position that she holds today...of course it was her sheer potential that she saved CONGRESS from going down the drains... and i don't say this out of any regards for the political party... IT IS ALL THE WOMEN'S AUSTERITY THAT SHE COMMANDS AND HOLDS THE POWER AND THE KEY TO HER OWN FUTURE AND THE FUTURE OF THE PEOPLE AROUND HER...))
what i mean to say is that women are going places...but still, i know, you know, we all know... women DO let us know and keep us reminded that they are women... and they need to be treated VERY SPECIFICALLY as women...
you notice it everywhere... at office, at social events, at parties, in public transport they expect us to get up and offer them seats... ((they call it gentlemanly... ooh gimme a break...!!))
grow up gals and all those who'd wanted to be called ladies...
BE A WOMEN TO BE TREATED AS A WOMAN... AND IF YOU WANNA FIGHT THE BATTLE... STAND SHOULDER TO SHOULDER WITH US WHEN IT COMES TO CAREER AND LIFE...
YOU ARE THE PILLARS THAT SUPPORT OUR EXISTENCE... AND WE PROBABLY WOULDN'T EVEN SURVIVE WITHOUT YOU... FORGET SURVIVING, WE WOULDN'T EXIST WITHOUT YOU...
SO BE WHAT YOU ARE... BUT BE ON ONE SIDE... ((EITHER CAREERS OR EITHER WOMEN...))
PRESERVE YOUR "YOU"... probably a lot of houses will be happier if a women strenghthens her stand in the family... in the house... in the society... in HER life...
While sitting idle(though those moments are rare)..a thought came across my mind..is it possible to manipulate a women’s mind, I know it will be difficult task, but let me give it a try... I might fail to deliver (expected, isn’t it? On which planet do men deliver?)
Please bear with me. After all, the first question ‘what women want’ still remains unanswered.
Women need security. She has two issues to sort before she is even willing to let you get close enough so you can attempt a manipulation.
1) Is she feeling safe with you?
2) Is she feeling safe from the World when she is with you?
Remember, this is why a woman never falls in love at first sight. One doesn’t get to know the bank balance at first sight.
If your answer to the above two questions is ‘Yes’ you are a star and you have every right to continue reading this article. Other men may as well pick up the latest PlayBoy and head to their favorite corner.
What politicians are to the citizens of a democracy, men are to the women. We never vote for the best politician (for there aren’t any) …we always end up voting for the least corrupt. Similarly, women are forced to choose the one who is the least likely to mess up their lives – which is anyway going around and around in cycles. Period.
It is this need for security and the ability to compromise, that makes a woman prefer the guy who offered to pay the bill, though he took her to a cheap restaurant.
Never walk into the restaurant and say magnanimously: “We will go Dutch…but I will take care of the tip myself.” This just might tip the scales in favour of the guy she had been keeping aside as Plan B.
But taking her to a restaurant and paying the bill might NOT make her trust you. She might start thinking, “This guy takes me to a restaurant, and pays for my dinner. Something is definitely fishy.”
If she wasn’t already on guard with you, this act of yours will put her on guard. You might not be able to read her mind, but she can read 100s of permutations & combinations into your single smile.
Mind you, women are always on guard …which helps them in their search for ‘security’. It is as if they see these boards (see pics) everywhere they go.
In a way, we men have made the women such experts in sensing the dangers nearby.
Not wanting to be left behind, the Indian Navy has decided to give up its gender bias and plans to use a woman’s seventh sense…there will be a woman in every sea-going submarine.
This woman will have to look out for dangers under the sea. Navy has SONAR etc….but apparently they aren’t as effective. The bill hasn’t been passed in the Parliament yet…our MPs are debating over the Indian Navy’s suggestion that the woman be tied to the nose of the submarine.
Anyway once you have won over her confidence…and made her feel safe with you and from the World, when she is with you…she is ready to be manipulated.
My dear men (women, you still reading?)…there are two things you need to know about a woman:
1) Women have the inherent need to know everything
2) Women love to be flattered
Women have this inner need to know everything about the man they are interested in or have ended up marrying. Talk to her…not just about cricket scores or the latest youtube video you saw on the net. Talk to her about what you did in office, what you ate for lunch, what you spoke of when you met your colleagues in the loo, what you were thinking while driving your car back from office, what her mother in law thinks of her, what her sister in law said about her…just about everything.
On the Flattery front, here are a few stock sentences that you can use to flatter her and once she is flattered, you can manipulate the hell out of her. Remember, you are dealing with a person with a seventh sense for security…so be careful.
1) Are you dieting? Or is it the gym? You are definitely losing weight
2) Where did you get that skirt? Goes really well with those shoes.
3) Did you do something to your hair today? I am seeing something extra.
4) I was walking just behind you…and guess what, when you walked past that bus stop…all the men fainted.
5) You have such nice skin. I knew you had reached Chennai even before I had landed in Chennai.
There are certain things you should never tell a woman. Even if it sounds ok to you, as a man. Sentences like:
1) If I were only half as good looking as you are…I would be your company’s CEO
2) You have such nice skin. Wish I had that too….darn these rashes!
3) Where did you get that skirt? Would love to see them crushed on the floor
4) What deo do you use? I was walking just behind you and when you walked past that bus stop…all the men fainted.
5) Did you do something to your hair today? I am an extra dosage on your shirt today
While you try these out on the women in your lives, do let me know the success rate..maybe I would get a Nobel for solving the most complex “question’ of our time…
